Read the classifieds completely, tracking the writing that
interests you the most so that you can go back and compare,
reread or contact that person. Reading through the entire
personal section, or at very least the section that applies
your target interest group, you will find a variety of people
with vast differences in personalities just through the short
descriptions available.
Now is the tough time to
write your contact letter, made much simpler if you have already
created your profile for replies to read about you. Starting
your reply is easy with an opening such as, ‘I have
read your profile and found you are most intriguing (interesting,
exciting, provocative)’ or you could use something more
elaborate such as ‘Your profile interested me to the
point where I had to contact you right away to find out what
we have in common’. While there are many expressions
and various phrases you can use when writing your opening
letter, the contact letter is truly going to be a reflection
of your personality, and what you are searching for in a relationship.
The first example of ‘I
have read your profile and found you are most intriguing’,
would reveal that you are interested. Are you searching for
friendship in the classified section? Try using the first
example building on that sentence to read along the lines
of: ‘I would like the opportunity to get to know you
better and talk a while’. But if you are searching for
a lover through the personals, the second sentence could read:
‘I really would love to get to know you better, find
out what type of person you are searching for and hopefully
to create a match with you’. The point here is to keep
your true feelings within the boundaries of words, not scaring
off someone if you are just wanting to be friends, while on
the other hand if you are searching for a lover don’t
hide behind words of a friendly chat.
Top ideas to use in your
opening introduction letter are express your interest to your
potential ‘date’ using your writing to express
why you are contacting that person. Reveal to this person
how you propose to meet their needs in their search for a
friend, companion or lover using expressive words such as
‘I intend to’ or ‘I would like to’
or even ‘I have been searching through the classifieds
and found your profile appealing to me because’. Give
just a few hints about your where you are located, without
revealing to much about your without determining whether the
two of you will continue a conversation. Use phrases like,
‘I am from the east coast’ or ‘I live south
of California’ or other such general terms, revealing
your location to a particular location through later conversations.
Your initial contact with a proposed ‘date’ should
be about the type of person you are searching for, why you
have been using resources online to search for someone special,
and what you are hoping to gain from a relationship from this
person with personal details revealed through additional conversations
as your ‘relationship’ trust grows.
Online personals have been
created for the user to act anonymously while investigating
the possibilities of friendship, love and for finding that
someone special to spend your life with. Using your thoughts
and feelings through this situation, creatively with expressive
words without misleading readers will allow you to reach your
destination, of finding that someone special, faster and easier
that you would be able to in any other situation.
Cheryl Lewis, freelance writer, married and mother of three.
Based in the Mountains of PA
Cheryl writes for TheLoveBar
– a web site for anyone looking for love online. We
have hundreds of articles, E-Books and links to some great
dating and love sites all over the world. TheLoveBar also
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